While we were jetting to California on Monday, the role calorie restriction plays in intimate relationships came up for discussion. We once knew a very young man who saw in a crowded room a woman who was so beautiful that she stood out from the hundreds of people who were there – so beautiful in fact that most of the men were afraid to talk with her.
He needed several days to get up enough courage to approach her and figure out something to say. She was not only beautiful, but highly intelligent, and successful – and he was still a mere student, several years younger than she was, and still hoping for a career break. Finally, when he talked with her – she laughed at the silly things that he said and, low and behold, agreed to go on a date with him. One thing led to another and at the end of the summer, they drove away together and later got married. Everything seemed good at first. Their ideals and values were so similar. But a surprising thing drove them apart. He chose to follow his penchant for great health and adopt a calorie restriction lifestyle. She did not.
Over the first few years, not much seemed to change. But as they aged into their 30s, and on towards their 40s, her beautiful looks gave way to too much weight, and the biological age difference between them grew wider by the year. Although neither of them would have admitted it, this began to cause differences between them. She would fall asleep early in the evening, and he would be awake – looking for something to do. Eventually, this led to arguments, sexual frustrations, and even extra-marital affairs. Then, by chance, a life-changing meeting – The younger of the two met someone who practiced his lifestyle. Meanwhile, his wife had grown quite old: She didn’t look her true age anymore but more like her husband’s older sister. Now, years later, both have remarried. The first wife has high blood pressure, walks with a cane and is grossly obese.
Could it be that limiting calories has a major effect on relationships?
If you have wondered about this, try reading The Mistress, a perceptive, new novel by E.S. Purnell, whose plot includes a woman who follows a CR Way of life. Is this just fantasy or will this touch your life? If you want a relationship with someone who shares your CR Way of life, make sure to take advantage of the Finding Friends forum by becoming a member of LivingTheCRWay.com.
The worst that could happen is that you’ll make a new friend or two, and that would be something to treasure.
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